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Why Are We Yelling? is a book about 8 things we can practice in order to improve in the art of productive disagreement.
This is a high-level outline of the ideas explored in the book.
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1st thing to try: watch how anxiety sparks
We'll see how examining our anxieties within disagreements can reveal our strongest values.
2nd thing to try: talk to your internal voices
We've inherited automatic responses to conflict, and we can listen to them without having to always obey them.
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3rd thing to try: develop honest bias
Knowing that we're all biased won't make them magically go away, but if we learn to notice them we can repair the damage they cause.
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4th thing to try: speak for yourself
Instead of speculating what others think, invite your most worthy opponents to the table to speak for themselves.
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5th thing to try: ask questions that invite surprising answers
The more open the question, the more likely you'll learn something new from it.
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6th thing to try: build arguments together
Your opponents can see your blind spots better than you can.
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7th thing to try: cultivate neutral spaces
Learn why it's important to invite threatening ideas to the table, and how to do this without endorsing them.
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8th thing to try: accept reality, then participate in it
Denying reality doesn't make it go away. We can learn to accept that problems exist, so we can participate in their solutions.
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Get your copy and learn the art of productive disagreement!
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busterbenson.com/whyareweyelling