Intentional Speaking

Dialogues that are constructive are shaped by Intentional Speaking. ​

​Yet, Intentional Speaking does not happen by itself.

It is a skill that can be learned.

Intentional Speaking needs AWARENESS that:

 

Sometimes we speak mindlessly.

 

Sometimes we unconsciously​ avoid the real issues.

 

Sometimes our body language contradicts our carefully crafted words.

 

Sometimes we hurt others without realising.

 

Intentional Speaking needs COURAGE to:

Risk lowering our guard.

See the validity of the other person’s needs.

Speak our truth with empathy.

You can PRACTICE Intentional Speaking with these steps:

  • Scan your body and sense your present emotions and intentions.

  • Speak from your personal experience and avoid blaming others.

  • Name specific events and try to avoid generalization.

  • Remember that you cannot know everything about a topic.

  • Expect and welcome responses that contradict your viewpoint.

Allow these responses to broaden your perspective on the issue.

REMEMBER:

 

Your words create realities.

You can choose to build bridges or divisions.

WORDS

WORDS

WORDS

“Dialogue cannot exist without humility.”

Paulo Freire