Wellbeing and Perception II

Understanding Assumptions

The most Beautiful People are those who

have known defeat, known suffering, known loss,

and have found their way out of the depths.

These persons have an understanding of life

that fills them with compassion and a deep loving concern.

Beautiful People

do not just happen.”

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Cognitive Defusion

Changing the Relationship to our Thoughts.

Three Steps: 

1.Identify the Thought as a Thought

2.Hold the Thought lightly (it is a thought and not reality)

3.Look AT the thought not FROM the thought

By practicing this different way of responding to thoughts, we reduce the emotional impact of difficult thoughts.


Underlying Assumptions


Underlying assumptions (UA) are rules/assumptions that inform our interpretation of events and subsequent responses.

Steps for Identifying Assumptions: 

1.Identify an Underlying Assumption by writing: "If... ,   then... "

2.How do you typically respond when this assumption is active?

3.What could be an Alternative Assumption that may serve you better?

By practicing these awareness steps and by testing Alternative Assumptions you have the potential to increase your wellbeing.

Effective Practice

Effective practice is consistent,

intensely focused,

and targets areas we want to improve.

Three Tips for Effective Practice:

1.Focus on the task at hand.

2.Minimize potential distractions

3.Start out slowly and focus on quality before increasing speed.


Share in your peer group about the following prompts.

Dialogue Prompts: 


1. Which of the Dialogue Agreements is important to you? And why?

2. Would you like to add an element to the agreements?



Reflection Prompts:

What touched you in these stories?


Write a brief response to the following reflection questions.

Reflection Prompt: 


What touched you in Salvador's story?


Draft your Story of Overcoming* through the lens of following questions.

Writing Prompts: 


1.What was the Situation?

2.What was the Process of overcoming?

3. What do you feel were the Learnings along the way?


*Note: No story is too small. Maybe a moment when you overcame a fear or challenge.


Sharing your Story: 

Check internally if you feel valued and respected in this group.

And if you do, Take Courage, risk vulnerability, and share openly

in order to co-create Deep Connections.


“The meaning of life is to find your gift.

The purpose of life is to give it away.” 

Pablo Picasso


Write a brief response to the following reflection prompts.

Reflection Prompts: 


1. What touched you in the stories?


2. What Story of Overcoming* does it remind you of in your own life?


*Note: No story is too small. Maybe a moment when you overcame a fear or challenge.

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