How do we make on-line dating more open?
(Enter "Dating on the Open Web" in Mozilla Etherpad text box)
Sexual safety ⚠️
...is on-line dating?
...is it broken?
...can it be fixed?
An on-line software service that is designed to help a person find other people to love, date, have sex with, or be friends with.
Beautiful faces, Thomas Merton, 2011, CC By 2.0
Faces, mfrissen, 2003, by-nc-nd 2.0
Nurse, Walt Stoneburner, 2009, by 2.0
Beauty lady, Alan Barrington, 2008, by-nc-nd
13% of American adults are registered for an on-line dating site at any given time.
For comparison: 50% of American adults are unmarried.
35% of American couples married since 2005 met using on-line dating systems.
Yes. Romance, sexuality and partnership are an essential part of the human experience.
Let's compare against the five pillars of Internet health
This part is easy! We have the tools for publishing free-form, media-enhanced, structured rich content on the Web.
A profile = a Web page, a few Web pages, or part of a Web page.
Publication ➡️ Information
OK! We also know how to do this. Structured data on the Web is easy to publish, either in structured markup or some kind of data format like JSON or XML.
Well, crud. This part is harder. We have well-known solutions, but they're mostly re-centralizing.
A Web crawler can find profiles, index them, and then let people search the available profiles for matches.
Hopefully (?) a diversity of search engines helps with decentralization. Or, p2p search. Ugh.
Hmmm. Some kind of exchange of tokens? Cryptographic signatures? Just an email?
This is a tricky problem, theoretically unsolvable!
"u wot m8"
One-on-one private messaging! The Internet has lots of this. Signal protocol, Email, XMPP. Make up your own!
By definition, this is not our problem.
Get outta here, you crazy kids! Have a great time.
If we do step 5 correctly, this should Just Work.
Unless it doesn't.