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(Ableism, Ageism, Hetereosexism, Racism, Sexism)

Ableism

Discrimination in favour of able-bodied people.

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ADHD / Dyslexic

“I’m so ADHD these days.” / “You’re dyslexic? But you seem so smart!”

 

Disabilities and disorders have serious consequences in people’s lives. Joking or creating memes about them, misusing the terms, and assuming things about them is wrong.

 

 

 

 

Ableism

Anorexic/Eating disorder

“Eat a sandwich.” / “She is so skinny. / “ It’s disgusting to look at her.”

Anorexia is a psychological disorder, marked by starving oneself. It is inappropriate because some people are naturally thin and cannot gain weight. Using this word in a negative manner towards another person is inappropriate.

Ableism

Basket case

“Go do your work, don’t be such a basket case.”

The origin of basket case goes back to World War I. It was originally a slang indicating a soldier who had lost all four limbs, thus making them unable to move independently.

Alternatives: Useless, Annoying, Lazy

Ableism

Bipolar

“The weather is so bipolar today.”

Bipolar refers to someone who with a type of manic- depressive disorder. Bipolar disorder involves extreme changes in moods that occur for weeks that can
ruin people’s lives.

Alternatives: Erratic, Unreasonable, Back-and-forth, Random, Indecisive, Moody, Scattered, Inconsistent

 

Ableism

Cancer

“That video gave me cancer.”

 

Cancer is a group of diseases involving abnormal cell growth with the potential to invade or spread to other parts of the body.

 

Using this word to describe things you hate doesn’t make sense. It shouldn't be used in a derogatory manner.

 

Ableism

Commit

 

“He committed suicide.”

 

We use the word “commit” when it comes to the act of carrying out a crime. The act of suicide is widely known to be the result of mental illness. Suicide is associated with unsuccessful treatments and hopelessness. The person who has died by suicide is not often remembered for how they lived but rather how they died. 

 

Alternative: Died by Suicide

 

 

Ableism

Crazy/Mental/Moron

 

Using "crazy" or "insane" in everyday speech can be hurtful to people who live with mental illness. It's the same reason you wouldn't use "retarded" as a synonym for "ridiculous." They do not not reflect the individuality, equality, or dignity of people with disabilities.

 

Alternatives: Absurd, Illogical, Irrational, Intense, Misleading, Not making sense, Not thinking, Naive, Mistaken, Confused, Misled

 

 

Ableism

Cripple/Crippled

Cripple refers to someone with a physical or mobility impairment.

 

Alternatives: Physically challenged, Mobility impaired, Differently-abled.

Note: This word’s shortened form, “crip” is reclaimed by some people with disabilities as a positive identity.

 

Ableism

Depressed

“I can’t believe I got a bad grade on that test, I’m so depressed.”

 

Depression is a serious mood disorder. It causes severe symptoms that affect how you feel, think, and handle daily activities. Depression is not just a passing sadness where you feel a little down. It's not a term that should be used lightly or in a joking manner.

 

Alternatives: Upset, Sad, Blue, Disappointed, Melancholy

 

Ableism

Derp, Derpy or Herp Derp

This may seem like a quirky phrase, but even before its inception as an internet meme, it has been consistently used to mock people with intellectual disabilities.

 

Alternatives: use words that actually make sense

 

Ableism

Dumb

“He’s so dumb, I don’t want him on my team.”

 

Dumb refers to deaf or hard of hearing people, people with speech-related disabilities, or people with linguistic or communication disorders or disabilities. It is not an alternative for describing someone ridiculous.

 

Alternatives: Foolish, Arrogant, Ridiculous

 

Ableism

Handicapped/The blind

 

Using these terms views people in terms of their disability. These terms can be condescending and group people into one similar

category. They do not reflect the individuality, equality, or dignity of people with disabilities.

 

Alternatives: Person with a disability, Person with visual impairment. If you’re unsure of the proper term or language to use, ask. Or refer to the person by their name.

 

 

Ableism

Imbecile

Imbecile was the diagnostic term for people with IQ scores between 30–50 in the early 1900s. It is no longer used professionally. Prior to the development of the IQ test in 1905, “imbecile” was also commonly used as a casual insult towards anyone perceived as incompetent at doing something.

 

Alternatives: Foolish, Incompetent

 

Ableism

Lame

“Aghh, I have homework, so lame.”

 

Lame refers to someone with physical or mobility disabilities. You not liking someone or something should not be compared to a disability.

 

Alternative: Uncool, Cheesy, Tacky

 

Ableism

Madhouse

“I’m living in a madhouse these days”

 

Madhouse refers to an institution housing people with mental or psychiatric disabilities.

 

Alternatives: Stressful situation

 

Ableism

Midget

"Where's the Midget from our class?"

 

This is considered a derogatory slur if you're not from the community. 

 

Alternative: Little person

Or better yet, ask them what they prefer. 

 

 

Ableism

Mongoloid

Mongoloid refers to someone with intellectual disabilities and specifically Down Syndrome. This word derives from racism and ableism, from the belief that people with Down Syndrome look like people from Mongolia.

 

There is no need for an alternative.

 

Ableism

OCD

“I’m so OCD when it comes to my stuff.

 

Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is an anxiety disorder in which people have repeated thoughts or behaviours that make them feel driven to do something. It is an illness that can completely dominate someone’s life. It shouldn't be used lightly.

 

Alternative: Particular, Perfectionist, Thorough

 

 

Ableism

Retard/Tard

“That’s so retarded.”

 

Retarded refers to someone who may be limited in mental development. Being retarded, or mentally disabled is not a choice. It is an intellectual disability that severely infers with one’s life and how the world views and treats them.

 

Alternative: Confusing, Foolish, Silly, Weird, Funky, Strange

 

 

Ableism

Special needs

 

This is a term that has been widely used by education systems and therefore remains part of everyday language. The term is seen as patronizing and has been used to make fun of disabled people. Saying that someone has “special needs” raises more questions than it answers.

 

This term is only acceptable if it is a relevant detail to the story.

 

 

Ableism

Speech Impediment

 

Don’t label others as their disability. These terms are only acceptable if a speech impairment is a relevant detail to the story.

 

Never assume someone has a specific condition. Someone who stutters a few times during one speech you happen to hear may not have a speech impediment.

 

 

Ableism

Suffering from or with

 

“I feel so bad for him, he’s suffering from bipolar disorder.”

 

People are not “suffering from” their disabilities or mental health. People are simply depressed, bipolar, autistic, disabled, etc. Don’t place value judgments on other people’s experience. You are not free to declare folks to be “suffering from” anything.

 

Avoid using descriptions that connote pity.

 

 

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Ageism

Discrimination on the basis of a person's age.

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Anti-aging

Ageism

This term glorifies the state of being “young” and preventing the state of growing older. We see this word most often in cosmetic media, advertisement, and products that promise a younger and brighter appearance while considering growing older as something that is undesirable or unwanted. With this word, an ideal life would be that of a young person who is physically attractive and does not show signs of aging.
This is an impossible standard to hold someone against and it is
discriminatory towards those who are of an older age.

Bed blockers

Bed blockers is a term used to refer to older persons in a hospital bed awaiting additional support or level of care.Usage of this term has often occurred when bouncing from home to hospital without proper rehabilitation.

Alternative: Patient

Ageism

Can't teach an old dog

new tricks

There is no age limit to learning a new skill or doing what one wants to do. Older people have a lot of experience with learning new things. Don't discredit or undermine someone simply due to their age.

 

Eliminate cross reference to animals. Using old as a negative identifier is not appropriate

Ageism

Cougar

“Damn, your aunt is such a cougar.”

 

Calling a woman a cougar is both sexist and ageist and neither progressive nor supportive of women.

 

Women are not animals, they are women.

Ageism

Crone /Hag /Geezer

These terms describe aging as a negative part of life.

 

Using old as a negative identifier is not appropriate.

Ageism

Dumb as a doornail / Blind as a bat

Ageism

Some hearing and vision loss is inevitable in the aging process. No person should be made out to feel ashamed for this process.


Alternatives: Vision loss, Hearing loss

Gerries

“The gerries always visit our store in the afternoon.”

 

Referring to seniors as gerries, which is short for Geriatrics, Gerontology, which is a field of study and not a label for an older person and is not acceptable.

 

Do not refer to people as fields of study.

Ageism

“Old”: Old fart, Old bag, Old dog / Old trout / Old fossil / Dirty old man

These terms describe aging as a negative part of life.

 

Using old as a negative identifier is not appropriate.

Ageism

Old timer

There is no age limit to learning a new skill or doing what one wants to do. Older people have a lot of experience with learning new things. Don't discredit or undermine someone simply due to their age.

 

Eliminate cross reference to animals. Using old as a negative identifier is not appropriate

Ageism

Past your prime

This phrase devalues older people by signifying that they are no longer “young” like they used to be.

 

Using old as a negative identifier is not appropriate.

Ageism

Pensioner /Retiree

Do not use terms such as these if you are defining people by what they do (or don’t do), rather than who they are.

Alternative: Address people respectfully by their name

Ageism

Senior moment

“Are you having a senior moment again?”

 

This term is used to describe an individual that has forgotten or misplaced something. It implies that seniors are typically people that are forgetful, lack mental function, or may be suffering from memory loss. Using this word mocks seniors and elderly people.

 

Alternatives: Memory lapse, Forgetful, Inattentive

Ageism

Silver tsunami

“Canada has more people over the age of 65 than youth under the age of 15 and is bracing itself for the silver tsunami of aging baby boomers.”

 

Silver tsunami refers to the aging of a generation to a natural disaster. i.e. a relentless, destructive, expensive, devastating phenomenon.

 

Alternatives: The aging of the population, Demographic shift, Age wave

Ageism

Senile Old Fool

“He's just a senile old fool.”

 

This term is used to refer to a person having or showing the weaknesses or diseases of old age, especially a loss of mental power. Suffering from dementia and being a fool are not related.

 

Alternatives: Dementia patient, Cognitive health

Ageism

You don't look your age / Successful aging

Ageism

Being or looking young is framed as a compliment and old as a thing to avoid and to hide. It is only kind of ok to be old, if you don’t look it. Saying this implies lower expectations for someone simply based on their age. It also congratulates them for looking younger. Using “young” instead of old is supposed to be a compliment that feeds into an ageist mentality.

To the extent that commenting on someone’s appearance can be considered acceptable (intentions and tone matter too), simply telling someone “you look very nice today” or “they were a great-looking couple” should be sufficient.

You're still working? Give your job to someone who needs it

Ageism

Rather than shaming older people for working at their age, we should encourage and acknowledge the years they have put into their service and careers. Everybody deserves to have a career, passion, etc.

 

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Heterosexism

Discrimination in favour of opposite-sex sexuality and relationships.

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Also terms that affect 2SLGBTQIA+ community.

2SLGBTQIA+

What does 2SLGBTQIA+ stand for?
 

2S: Two Spirit (drawn from Indigenous culture to refer to people who walk in two worlds)

L: Lesbian

G: Gay

B: Bi-sexual

T: Transgender or Transsexual

Q: Queer or Questioning

I: Intersex

A: Asexual  

 

Heterosexism

Assumptions

Do not make the assumption that every gay or lesbian knows what every other gay or lesbian is thinking. It’s similar to asking a Japanese person why Sony is investing heavily in the United States.

 

Assumptions should be avoided, especially when you don’t know the person well.

 

Heterosexism

Backdoor bandit / Faggot / Fag / Fairy / Fruit / Pansy / Poofter / Sod / Sperm gurgler / Sausage fest / Twink​

You can’t impose your own meaning on these words. You also can’t reclaim something without a thorough understanding of where it came from and the problem surrounding it. You may not think you’re being homophobic, but saying you are “just joking” or only saying it to people who aren’t gay doesn’t free you of blame. You may not be able to solve the issue of homophobia in our society. But what you can do it make sure you aren’t — consciously or not — contributing to it.

 

Heterosexism

Dyke

“What a Dyke.”

 

The term "dyke" is an offensive slang noun meaning lesbian. This word originated as a derogatory label for a tomboyish or butch woman. It is often used as a negative term by those not in the community.

 

Do not use it.

 

 

Heterosexism

"Gay boys are so stylish"

"Lesbians are so loyal"

 

Stereotypical statements ignore the reality of wide differences within any group and are potentially insulting to all groups.

 

Stereotypical statements should be avoided.

 

Heterosexism

Husband / Wife
Girlfriend / Boyfriend

These terms may reinforce heterosexuality as a norm. Remember: Inclusive language is deliberate selection of vocabulary that avoid the explicit or implicit exclusion of particular groups, and avoid the use of false generic terms.

Alternative: partner


Heterosexism

No Homo

By saying “no homo” you are basically alienating yourself from homosexuality because you’re afraid of being associated with it.

 

You don’t need to state your sexuality when complimenting others of the same sex.

 

Heterosexism

Pronouns

Heterosexism

There is nothing wrong with gender pronouns. However “he” and “she” come with a certain set of expectations about how someone should express their identity and relate to the world. For some it can be normal and for others limiting. Language matters. Gender-inclusive language is language that avoids bias toward a particular sex or social gender.
Someone might proactively tell you if they prefer gender-neutral pronouns, but if you make an assumption about their pronoun without asking, then the responsibility will fall on them to correct you. This can be awkward, so why not just ask what they prefer their pronoun to be?

 

Queer

“Dude, that’s so queer.”

 

Historically, this term was used to devalue, demean and insult and discriminate against people who identify with the 2SLGBTQIA+ community. There has been recent movement to reclaim the word and use it as an umbrella term to describe sexual minorities or as an identity label an individual can use to simply define themselves.

 

 

Heterosexism

She male / Tranny / Trap

Behind this term is a history of violence and oppression inflicted on transgender bodies that we need to recognize, and respect those who continue to overcome it. If you do not identify with this term, do not use it.

Alternative: Go with what they are calling themselves. It’s not about your comfort level - it’s about showing respect and using the term that individuals and groups of people have chosen for themselves. Ask them what they prefer.

 

 

Heterosexism

"You don't look gay"

Complimenting gay men or anyone in the LGBTQ2S+ community by saying that they don’t look it is not ok nor needed.

 

This comment is simply not needed.

 

 

Heterosexism

You're so gay / That's gay

If you are describing something or someone as gay, you are still using the term in a condescending, demeaning and often insulting manner.

 

Alternatives: Depends on the situation.

 

 

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Racism

Discrimination directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one's own race is superior. Racism and power are closely linked in a hegemonic relationship.

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 Ape/ Kaffir/ Monkey

These are insulting terms for persons with African descent. It is an apartheid era terminology used by Afrikaners (Dutch) to insult Blacks in South Africa. The word is used to describe mannerisms similar to a monkey or someone with little intelligence.

 

Racism

 Barbarian/ Barbaric

Barbarian is used to describe someone who is not perceived to be civilized. The Greeks used this term for all non-Greek speaking peoples, emphasizing their otherness, because the language they spoke sounded to Greeks like gibberish represented by the sounds “bar..bar.” This word is also associated with colonialism.

 

Alternative: Cruel, Brutal

 

Racism

 Beaner

This word was created to insult Mexican immigrants.

 

Racism

 Browny

Browny has been used to insult Middle Eastern and South Asian people for many years.

 

Racism

 Chinese whisperer

This is another name for the game titled Telephone, where participants whisper a phrase to the person next to them until it reaches the last person in line. The origin of this phrase has to do with the Chinese language being difficult to understand and/or translate by Americans.

 

Alternative: A game of Telephone

 

Racism

Ching Chong Chang

These are pejorative terms sometimes employed by speakers of English to mock or play on the Chinese language, people of Chinese ancestry, or other East Asians perceived to be Chinese.

 

Racism

 Chink / Chinx

Chink is a word that originated around the 1890’s in North America. It was derived from the phonetic word Ching of the Chinese Ching Dynasty. Chinese people who immigrated in the 1800’s and early 1900’s were from the Ching Dynasty and the word Chink was used as a racist slang. Many Chinese of the Ching Dynasty endured years of slave labour in Canada, building the railroads and working mines.

 

Racism

 Chug

“That chug is wasting his life

 

Chug is a racist slang term used against the Indigenous peoples of Canada, referring to them as heavy drinkers.

 

Racism

 Darkie

This term was used across the world by colonizers to describe people to colour.

 

Racism

Don't be an Indian giver

This is an American expression used to describe a person who gives a gift and later wants it back, or who expects something of equivalent worth in return for the item. It is based on cultural misunderstandings that took place between early European colonizers and the Indigenous people with whom they traded. Often the Europeans would view an exchange of items as gifting, believing they owed nothing in return to the Indigenous who were generous with them, while the Indigenous people saw the exchange as a form of trade or equal exchange, so had differing expectations of their guests.

 

Racism

Drunken good for nothing

This is a racist phrase is often used to describe Indigenous peoples of Canada.

 

Avoid it at all cost.

 

Racism

Ethnic / Ethno-cultural

If you're using this word to describe people of colour, don't use it.

Here’s the thing: An ethnic group is a category of people who identify with each other based on things like a common language, religion, ancestral location, and history. So if you think about it, all people, including white people, are ethnic. Because all people identify in some way with a location, language, religion, and/or history.

 

Racism

 Eskimo

People in many parts of the Arctic consider Eskimo a derogatory term because it was widely used by racist colonizers. Many people also thought it meant eater of raw meat, which connoted barbarism and violence.


This word’s racist history means it is not okay to use it.

 

Racism

 Exotic

If your new coworker has a name you’ve never heard of before, hold your tongue before telling them it’s “exotic.” Using this word ends up exoticizing whomever you’re referring to, usually with nasty racial underpinnings. It’s a major verbal microaggression we need to undo.

 

Exotic is a term that others. It’s also a term usually reserved for animals and plants. So, let’s not even go there

 

Racism

 Flip

Flip was originally a derogatory term used for Filipinos by U.S. soldiers. In recent times there has been a trend by the community to reclaim the word, so that it can be used between them but not by outsiders.

 

Racism

 FOB (Fresh off the Boat)

This is often used as a means of mocking and other-ing an individual, while also downplaying the realities that many refugees and immigrants may be faced with when relocating to a new state. Some individuals may self-identify with this label.

 

Alternative: Newly Immigrated, Immigrant, Refugee

 

Racism

 Ghetto

By comparing things, behaviours, or people to an idea of ghetto is racist, as it paints a wrongful and hurtful picture of what ghetto is. The media and the masses have an idea of what ‘ghetto’ might be because of what has been seen in popular culture, through the lenses of someone who hasn’t been in a marginalized situation. 

 

Alternative: Poor community, Underdeveloped

 

Racism

 Gooks

A colonial and racist term used to describe people of Southeast Asian and East Asian descent.

 

Racism

 Gypsy/ Gypsy Soul

This is a derogatory term for a group of people called the Romani or Roma. Originating in India, the Romani people took to a traveling lifestyle and made money through trades. They primarily settled in Eastern Europe, but they live all over the world today.

 

Racism

 Half Breed

This is a racist term used to describe a person of mixed race in a negative manner.

 

Racism

 Illegal/ Illegal Aliens

Illegal can refer to the act of stealing a car, but not in reference to immigrant or refugee populations. It’s pretty simple to explain: Actions are illegal, people are not. The word illegal has been applied and abused by those advocating for harsh immigration policies that are undoubtedly racist and xenophobic.

 

Racism

Indigenous or Aboriginal?

Racism

What is a collective noun for the original inhabitants of Canada?
Indigenous is the collective noun but on the topic of correct terminology — avoid using the possessive phrase “Our Indigenous Peoples” as that implies ownership of Indigenous Peoples. The right answer is: Go with what they are calling themselves. It’s not about your comfort level — it’s about showing respect and using the term that individuals and groups have chosen for themselves. Ask them what they prefer.

 

 Jew/Jewed

“I just got Jewed.”

 

This is a hateful word used to describe an instance that pertains to being cheap, associating it with the Jewish community.

 

Racism

 Long Time No See

This phrase was originally meant as a humorous and insulting interpretation of a Indigenous greeting used after a prolonged separation.

 

Alternative: I haven’t seen you for a long time.

 

 

Racism

 Marijuana

This "exotic-sounding" word emphasized the drug’s foreignness to white Americans and appealed to the xenophobia of the time. Harry Anslinger, the bureaucrat who led the prohibition effort, is credited as saying back then: “There are 100,000 total marijuana smokers in the US, and most are Negroes, Hispanics, Filipinos and entertainers. 

 

Alternative: Cannabis

 

Racism

 Mulato

Mulato was historically used to describe the child of a black person and a white person. The term originates from the Spanish word “mulato,” which originates from the word “mula,” or mule—the offspring of a horse and a donkey.

 

Racism

 Ni**er/ Ni**ah

The word started off as just a descriptor, with no value attached to it. As early as the 17th century, it evolved into an intentionally derogatory word, and it has never been able to shed that baggage since then—even when black people talk about appropriating and re-appropriating it. The word is inextricably linked with violence and brutality on black psyches and derogatory aspersions cast on black bodies. Never use this term.

 

Racism

 No Can Do

This phrase stems from Americans making fun of immigrants who spoke English as a second language. To mock these people, native English speakers would say ‘no can do’, which is the grammatically incorrect way of saying ‘I cannot do that.’ Saying it only reiterates the thinly veiled racism that surrounds the lives of many.

 

Alternative: I cannot do that. There is no way I can do that. That is not possible.

 

Racism

Paki

“Wanna hit up Paki town for food (aka Brampton)?”

 

"Paki" acquired offensive connotations in the 1960s when used by British tabloids to refer to subjects of former colony states in a derogatory manner. In modern usage, Paki is typically a derogatory label used for all South Asians, including Pakistanis, Indians, Afghans and Bangladeshis. Recently, there has been a trend by Pakistanis to reclaim the word.

 

Racism

Red Indian / Indian /
Red skin

Racism

“Ask that red Indian boy.”


For Indigenous peoples in Canada, the word Indian is a symbol of shame. Many have been subjected to repeated slurs using the word. It has been used to stereotype them as savages.

 

 Sand ni**er/ Camel jockey

This slur is often associated towards Muslims, Arabs, and South Asians.

 

Racism

Slant-eyed savage /
Spear chucker /
Teepee creeper

These racial slurs are referred to describe Indigenous peoples in Canada.

 

Do not use these terms.

 

Racism

 Spic

Spic is a racial slur used against a person from a Spanish-speaking country of Latin America.

 

Racism

 Squaw

This word is offensive and stereotypes Indigenous women back to a time when settlers believed that Indigenous women were voiceless child bearers, enslaved and subhuman.

 

Racism

  Terrorist

“Your beard is terrorist level bro.”

 

Using this term is demeaning and disrespectful as you are critiquing someone’s appearance by comparing them to a preconceived notion of what a ‘terrorist’ might look like.

 

There’s no reason to comment on someone’s appearance by comparing them to a ‘terrorist’

 

Racism

 Towelhead

Towelhead is an ethnic slur for people of Arab descent, especially those wearing Keffiyeh. As well as people who wear a turban.

 

Alternative: A hijab is a hijab, A turban is a turban, A Keffiyeh is a Keffiyeh

 

Racism

 Wagon burner

“Get off the road you wagon burner.”

 

This racial slur is used to describe Indigenous peoples in an offensive way. It derives from early colonial days.

Racism

 Wetback

Wetback is an ethnic slur that was originally coined and applied only to Mexicans who entered the U.S. state of Texas, presumably by swimming or wading across the river and getting wet in the process.

 

Racism

Where are you from?

Racism

The problem is the question. You don’t really want to know that I live at Grand Ave. Cambridge Ontario. You want to know my ethnicity. And sure if we’re close enough, I may feel comfortable telling you this… but if not, don’t expect me to tell you this.
Tone is important here. If you know the person well enough, you could ask: What part of your heritage are you proudest of? Or what is your ethnic background?

 

Uppity

Classism

The word uppity, originated as a word used by Southerners in reference to African-Americans that they deemed didn’t know their place in society.

 

White trash / Cracker / Hillbilly / Redneck / Trailer Trash

Classism

We’ve all heard these terms in reference to poor white people living in North America. These terms stretch back into early America and were developed largely as a way for rich white people to insult poor white people. So while they might not be expressly racist, they are still inappropriate.

 

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Sexism

Discrimination on the basis of sex.

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Basic / Bimbo / Broad /
Blonde / Airhead

“Look at what that girl is wearing, she’s so basic!”

These words are female insults that enhance gender discrimination. People should have the freedom
to appear as they wish without feeling shame or harassment, or having their intelligence insulted.

If someone feels the need to comment on how someone is dressed, they can say differently.

 

Sexism

“Do you see the way she acts? She’s such a bitch.”

 

This derogatory word is often used to describe women who are strong or outwardly opinionated. When someone calls a man a bitch, it is often to say they are like a woman, or feminine, and they can be easily submissive. 

 

If you are trying to say the person is not nice or rude, simply say that.

Sexism

Bitch

These terms are violent and sexist.

 

Don't use them.

Sexism

Bombshell / Man-eater

 

    Bossy / Pushy / Feisty /

    Sassy / Whiney

 

 

 

 

Have you ever seen a man be described with any of these words? That’s a general rule of thumb on how not to be sexist.

 

Alternatives: Strong, Forward, aggressive, in-charge, Powerhouse, Assertive, Boss, Exemplary, Commanding, Confident, Leader, Fearless, Impressive

Sexism

Where is the male equivalent??

 

There is no need for alternatives.

Sexism

Bridezilla

 

When women disagree with each other, the proceedings are sometimes stereotyped as a catfight. Men’s disagreements are not called catfights or dogfights or anything else.

 

Alternatives: Arguments, Disagreements, Debates, Discussions, Conflicts, Disputes

Sexism

Catfight / Catty

 

This is used to often describe both sexes, although it tends to be used more often for men.

 

Alternatives: self-confident, overconfident, arrogant, self-important, in love with oneself, pushy, overbearing, swaggering, aggressive, conceited, haughty, supercilious; jaunty, brash, cheeky, flippant, saucy, nervy, impertinent, insolent, careless

Sexism

 Cocksure / Cocky

 

 

Cunt / Cunty / Cuntish /

Munt (male version)

The word was originally used to describe a vulva or vagina, but is now used as an insult to describe women. This word has a strong misogynistic overtone.

 

There is no need for alternatives.

Sexism

These terms are used primarily used to describe women.

 

Alternatives: Out of it

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 Ditz / Ditzy

 

 

Use "Ancestors" instead.

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 Forefathers

 

 

Fu*k Boy

This word is often used to “slut-shame” men. Originally it was used as a slur against male victims of rape, specifically prison rape. A fu*kboy was a male prisoner who was passed around as sexual property of fellow inmates and because they were weaker and smaller, they were taunted and called fu*kboys.

 

There is no need for alternatives.

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“Hey dude, she’s hot, FHRITP.”

 

This phrase started off as a vulgar videobombing prank meme that went viral and is incredibly degrading for women.

 

There is no need for alternatives.

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Fu*k her right in the Pu**y

or FHRITP

 

No need to bring gender into an agreement.

 

Alternatives: Unwritten, Informal, Oral, Honourable, verbal agreement, verbal, oral promise, contract , handshake, your word, mutual understanding.

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Gentleman's agreement

 

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Guys

Use: Folks, People, Everyone instead

Calling a woman "high-maintenance" is insinuating that there is something wrong with her because she requires more effort than other women. Women don't need to be compared to other women or shamed for their personalities. Treat people as individuals. The ‘high-maintenance boyfriend’ stereotype is yet to surface.

 

There is no need for alternatives.

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High-maintenance

 

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Hormonal / Raging female hormones / Over-sensitive / PMS / Period shaming

It’s known that PMS (pre-menstrual stress) can affect women’s moods – but this phrase ignores that and just assumes that if a woman’s frustrated or angry about something, it must be all down to her hormones…. because women can’t have any real cause for anger.
Both men and women have hormones, but hormonal is often only used to describe women.

The word "hysterical" derives from the Greek word for uterus. It usually gets tossed around as a description for emotional women and feeds into the sexist stereotype that women are unstable.

 

There is no need for alternatives.

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Hysterical

 

“Don’t be a pu**y”

 

By calling someone a pu**y, you are referring to them as a woman and therefore saying that being a woman is somehow shameful. “Don’t be a pussy, be a man” is a way of saying “be dominant and aggressive and don’t be feminine and passive.”

 

Alternatives: You can do it, Just try a little harder

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Pu**y

 

Slut / Skank / Whore /

Hoe

“I cannot believe you kissed her! She is such a slut.”

 

As a culture, we are quick to use these words that paint female sexuality as disgraceful – even if we don’t realize that we are doing it. For some young women, the stigma of these words are so hurtful that it leaves their lives in ruins.

 

Alternatives: She was exploring her newfound sexual desire. She was experimenting

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The word ‘dad’ is rarely preceded by ‘working’.

 

There is no need for alternatives.

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Working mom

 

By definition, whatever a man does or like is manly or manlike because a man is doing it.

 

Alternatives: courageous, strong, brave, upright, honorable, mature, noble, resolute, straightforward, vigorous, adventurous, spirited, direct, competitive, physical, mechanical, logical, Active, self-confident

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Manlike / Manly / Manbun / Mankind / Manly / Like a man

 

 

 

This phrase generally refers to a woman. Social butterfly conveys a sense of light-mindedness along with the sociable, gregarious character of the person.

 

Alternatives: Gregarious, outgoing, social, sociable, socially active, convivial, extroverted

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Social butterfly / Bubbly

 

 

 

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