How do we make on-line dating more open?
Women ✔️
LGBTQ+ ✔️
Sexual safety ⚠️
Shaming ❌
...is on-line dating?
...is it broken?
...can it be fixed?
An on-line software service that is designed to help a person find other people to love, date, have sex with, or be friends with.
Beautiful faces, Thomas Merton, 2011, CC By 2.0
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Faces, mfrissen, 2003, by-nc-nd 2.0
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Nurse, Walt Stoneburner, 2009, by 2.0
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Beauty lady, Alan Barrington, 2008, by-nc-nd
13% of American adults are registered for an on-line dating site at any given time.
For comparison: 50% of American adults are unmarried.
35% of American couples married since 2005 met using on-line dating systems.
Yes. Romance, sexuality and partnership are an essential part of the human experience.
Let's compare against the five pillars of Internet health
https://internethealthreport.org/
Protected information
Gradual disclosure
Publication ➡️ Information
Well, crud. This part is harder. We have well-known solutions, but they're mostly re-centralizing.
A crawler can find profiles, index them, and then let people search the available profiles for matches.
Hopefully (?) a diversity of search engines helps with decentralization. Or, p2p search. Ugh.
A special kind of activity?
"Like" activity?
Request to start a relationship?
Just a directed note to someone's inbox?
One-on-one private messaging!
Can work easily with directed notes in AP
By definition, this is not our problem.
Get outta here, you crazy kids! Have a great time.
If we do step 5 correctly, this should Just Work.
Unless it doesn't.