Like a little penis pain? For many guys, the answer is an emphatic “No!” or “Not on your life!” But for men who are into certain kinks, the idea of a little penis pain – or perhaps more than a little – is a turn-on. Consensual penis pain is part of the sex lives of some couples, but since it can have an impact on penis health, it’s wise for those who participate to take proper care that the pain doesn’t cause actual damage.

 

To be perfectly accurate, most practitioners of consensual penis pain include the balls as well as the penis in their sex play. They typically refer to their activity as CBT.

What is involved?

 

Basically, CBT can involve any activity that produces some consensual degree of pain in the penis and/or balls. Sometimes this can be very “light” – for example, tickling the penis and balls is considered a form of CBT. But often the activity produces actual pain in varying degrees. Some ways in which CBT is practiced include the following:

 

• Slapping. A partner slaps the penis and balls with their hands. This can be done with playful slaps or with heavy slaps.

 

• Squeezing. Practiced more often on the balls, CBT squeezing can also be applied to the penis. The pressure exerted should be at least sufficient to cause a modicum of discomfort.

• Strapping. Leather goods are often used in CBT activities. Tying up the body parts in question – rather tightly - with thin strips of leather is common.

 

• Lashing.  Sometimes leather can have other uses. Whips or lashes are sometimes involved in CBT play.

 

• Caging. Often CBT includes putting a man’s penis in a chastity cage. This device, typically made of metal or plastic, is inserted over the man’s flaccid penis and then locked so that it cannot be removed without a key. The cage includes an opening for urination, but it is tight enough that it makes erections painful.

• Beating. When slapping isn’t forceful enough, a man may enjoy some beating. This can be accomplished with a partner’s fists or with an object, such as a paddle.

 

• Teasing and denying. Not all penis pain comes from extreme physical contact. Teasing and denying involve stroking or otherwise stimulating a man’s penis until he is almost ready to ejaculate and then stopping and not allowing him to proceed further. This is repeated over and over, with the penis pain coming from the desire to almost ejaculate but not being given the satisfaction.

For those who decide to engage in CBT with a partner, it’s important to take certain precautions. First and foremost, there must be an acceptable level of trust between the participants. No matter how involved the role-playing, the man being pained must be certain his partner will not go too far and will stop when asked. For this reason, it’s good for “safe words” to be established beforehand, to be employed if the pain should be lessened or stopped altogether.

 

CBT activities should also be of limited duration, about 20-30 minutes at most. When an activity ceases, a guy may have a dullness or numbness in his penis and balls. If pain continues after activity has been ceased for 5 or 10 minutes, he should consult a doctor.

There is always a risk with CBT activities. Those who consensually choose to engage in them should be aware of that risk.

 

Penis pain, whether consensual or not, can often be eased by applying a soothing penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) to the manhood. Moistuizing agents can help make the skin feel better, so select a crème with both a high-end emollient (such as Shea butter) and a natural hydrator (such as vitamin E).  In addition, choose a crème with L-arginine, an amino acid which helps keep penile blood vessels open and flowing; loss of circulation can sometimes be an issue with CBT, so helping expand blood vessels is recommended.