Debug Your Relationships with Dev Best Practices
Valerie Kraucunas
Who Am I?
- Prototyper
- Co-Business Owner
- Lefty
- INFJ, Enneagram 9, Leo
Why is this interesting to me?
- Learning to code rewired my brain
- Relationship behavior is intriguing
- Developers !== bad social skills
- IDEO Design Thinking workshop
What kinds of relationships is this advice covering?
- Peer relationships (friends, spouses, colleagues)
- Not manager-direct reports relationships
- Not parental-child relationships
Separation of Concerns
- Divide up tasks and trust
- Do not micromanage or meddle
- Communicate your bandwidth
Bus Factor
- Talk about what you do
- Document when necessary
- Meta conversations are fun!
Rule of Three
- DRY: Don't Repeat Yourself
- Emotional labor is real
- If they, or you, forget something 3 times, it is time for a new solution
Don't Deploy on Fridays
Don't share important information when:
- You aren't available to discuss it appropriately
- It is too late
- While the other person is
distracted
Acceptance Criteria (AC)
- Clearly communicated expectations
- Tasks that have an obvious "done" state
- If an AC is not met, don't avoid conversation about it!
Retro
- Best ceremony
- Opportunity to share feedback and feelings
- Prevents resentment if used effectively
Summary
- Communicate early, communicate often.
- Put organization tools to work for you to reduce bad feelings in your relationship.
- Maintaining the harmony is valuable!
Thank you!
