Dialogues that are constructive are shaped by Intentional Speaking.
Yet, Intentional Speaking does not happen by itself.
It is a skill that can be learned.
Intentional Speaking needs AWARENESS that:
Sometimes we speak mindlessly.
Sometimes we unconsciously avoid the real issues.
Sometimes our body language contradicts our carefully crafted words.
Sometimes we hurt others without realising.
Intentional Speaking needs COURAGE to:
Risk lowering our guard.
See the validity of the other person’s needs.
Speak our truth with empathy.
You can PRACTICE Intentional Speaking with these steps:
Scan your body and sense your present emotions and intentions.
Speak from your personal experience and avoid blaming others.
Name specific events and try to avoid generalization.
Remember that you cannot know everything about a topic.
Expect and welcome responses that contradict your viewpoint.
Allow these responses to broaden your perspective on the issue.
Your words create realities.
You can choose to build bridges or divisions.
“Dialogue cannot exist without humility.”