Meir Ezra --- When your spouse does something wrong, how do you react?
Some spouses like to blame. "You really embarrassed me when you told that stupid joke. You make me want to stay at home."
Other spouses prefer to criticize. "You’re so fat it makes me sick."
Getting even is also a favorite response. "Well, because you were flirting with Chris, I decided to flirt with Pat."
By blaming, criticizing or getting even with your spouse, you are trying to be AT CAUSE by putting your spouse AT EFFECT. Unfortunately, putting your spouse AT EFFECT is harmful to your relationship. You start arguments and fights. Just because your parents reacted badly toward each other is no reason you need to continue the tradition.
