Usually, when a couple has been married for decades, you would think that there is nothing that can break them apart. After all, you don’t stay with a person for years and years and then suddenly, discover that he or she is not the one for you.
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But such things can happen and I have seen retirement as one of those life changing moments that can make a marriage crumble. I know of a couple whereby the husband worked while the woman is a housewife. Then, the man retired and suddenly, things are not well at home. I guess all those years when the man was working, there is less opportunity for friction to occur because the majority of the time he is busy outside the home. But when things change overnight and he ended up staying at home all the time with the wife, they started to get on each other’s nerves so much so that being apart is better than being together.
Maybe when we get older and there are less things to worry about and occupy our mind, even trivial matters seem incredibly important. Little things and disputes get magnified because there is nothing else to focus upon, especially if all the kids are grown and living well on their own.
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I guess there is just no certainty in marriage, even after years of being together. Life changes and sometimes, when we age, our life perspectives and moods too will change, for the better or worse.
You struggle with trusting someone on an ongoing basis. You don’t have to. Also remind yourself that that one guy who betrayed you or who did you wrong told you who he was by his actions. He cheated. He lied. He’s a jerkface. You don’t know what these other craigslist men have done…yet. Wait until you see concrete evidence that they’re less than sincere.Then start to question them. But until then? Just trust them today. That way if they do disappoint you, you didn’t turn all your trust over to them.
Your advice to the OP is spot-on, Moxie. It’s very hard to not take the baggage of a former relationship into the next one, especially when cheating and lying were involved.
Similar to the OP, my last relationship ended abruptly, and I later learned that he was cheating on me during most of our dating time. I’m now seeing someone with whom I was friends for months before we began to craigslist date, and every time another woman talks to him, my insecurites kick in. I keep them to myself and do not verbalize them to him, but I recognize that they’re triggered by how I’ve been treated in the past and I have to remind myself that all men are not the same. I do exactly what you advise – take each day at a time and not think too far into the future – and I’m enjoying each day and each interaction.
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