Being in a Relationship With Expats
I was reading the Marie Claire online magazine and came across this article that links relationship with expatriates. It seems that while we are single, we will tend to lose weight to impress our men but once the relationship with expatriates enters a comfort zone, our waistline will increase to reflect our contentment.
Perhaps there is an element of truth to it as people who are in a happy long-term relationship probably no longer feel that their physical appearance is of crucial importance. They become so comfortable with each other that they don’t see weight gain as a problem in their relationship. Anyway, our weight does fluctuate as we enter different phases in life. According to the article, expatriates women will lose weight for their wedding but will gain back more during pregnancy and while the kids are still young. The reason? They simply can’t afford the time to eat healthily and do whatever needs to be done in order to look good.
The consolation? We will lose back some of the weight as we enter midlife when the kids are grown. I guess there is more time on our hands then to reflect on our appearance. So, in short, we will look our best when we are single, kind of slim when we are old and wrinkly but fattest when we are in the early years of our marriage with young kids in tow.
haha…. I found this article quite true. Although I am not married yet, I somehow can see it comming my way in the near future (though I secretly swear to myself that I will work hard to maintain my weight). Also, not to mention that I sees it in almost all those people around me. Most of my friends who are married and have children after that, majority of them is much fatter than before they were married.
True, true….when all my colleagues meet my 2 sons for first time, this is their comment “No wonder you so damn slim, now, we know your secret!!!” Ha,ha..of course, managing 2 active boys, and household, imagine ler…he,he…
Here is the back story:
I traveled around Europe after getting laid off and met up with a childhood friend who was nothing more than that: a friend. He was going through a divorce so things were tough emotionally for him. We slept together during my trip then I went back home to reality. He continuously emailed me saying he cared about me and couldn’t believe how hard it was to see me go and then tells me he loves me 2 weeks later. Long story short, I moved to be with him and snooped more out of curiosity than suspicion. I sought and found he was talking to 2 other people with the same intensity … all that was different was the name to whom it was written. Several months later (not knowing that info at the time), I’m here and things are good and he hasn’t reconnected with the other people as far as I know.
Can I trust him going forward? He never gave me any reason to doubt his loyalty. He always tells me he loves me and that I’m his life and he wants to marry and have kids with me someday. I never admitted to snooping but when I test him with questions I know the answer to, he lies to me. Is he doing that purely to protect me and for fear of losing me? He makes me feel like I’m the one who’s crazy sometimes when he’s the one who did wrong. |Age: 29
I’m not sure you really have a reason not to trust him. Sure, it would be nice if the words he said to you were to you and only you and that you were the only one on the roster but…how realistic is that? He was engaging multiple women at once. We’re you even exclusive at the time he was sending these emails? If you were, then I understand your concern. But if you weren’t, then the only thing he’s guilty of is keeping his options open. Don’t we all do that from time to time?
You can’t set someone up and then be surprised when they lie. Depending on the question, what did you think he would say? Did you think he would break down and tell you that he was hedging his bets all along? Who would admit to that?
You want him to be honest, yet you’re not being honest about what you did. Don’t you think that’s being a little hypocritical? Why aren’t you being honest? Because you’d lose him. Isn’t it possible that that’s the very reason why he’s not being honest? Isn’t that a possible sign of how much he cares versus he’s untrustworthy?
Being in a Relationship With Expatriates
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Being in a Relationship With Expatriates
It seems that while we are single, we will tend to impress our men but once the relationship with expatriates enters a comfort zone.....
